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Last Fall I took an “Extraordinary Leadership” class where I learned about the fundamental traits of a leader. One major topic presented was the importance of emotional intelligence, especially in the workforce. To me, emotional intelligence is defined as paying attention to the way others react and relating to others’ feelings versus your own. I realized emotional intelligence is something that should be openly talked about before entering a job or internship. You can be a well-rounded leader by understanding the 5 key characteristics of emotional intelligence, which was established by psychologist Daniel Goleman.

Self-awareness

Being self-aware of your actions and the way you speak goes hand in hand. If you can depict your own emotions, then this is the first step in understanding emotional intelligence. To understand another person’s perspective, you must understand your own. Another tip to become more self-aware is to take a moment and pause. Look back at the events that just occurred and identify what you did right or wrong.

Self-regulation

Self-regulation is crucial because you want to have control when handling negativity, whether it’s from your end or the other person’s. In other words, take control of your life! This doesn’t mean that you should keep your feelings hidden, but to really think before you speak. You never know when someone is having a rough week due to personal issues. Sometimes saying something insensitive can break sensitive barriers around the person you’re working with.

Motivation

Motivation is needed to accomplish what we put our minds to. At work, motivation can help you understand why you chose this position in the first place. If you’re motivated to wake up and make money, then you are more than motivated to see that everything has a silver lining. As a leader, you need this trait to move forward and maybe influence others to do so as well.

Empathy

The previous steps were more to understand your own self reflection before facing what others go through. Although there is a specific professional mannerism in the workplace, at times having a wall blocking any sort of surrounding emotions isn’t always good. From personal experience, I’ve seen so many leaders block off the well-being of their peers and focus on their own. This creates a hostile work environment where workers feel incompetent completing work goals while dealing with personal struggles. With empathy, you take time to observe body language, communicate to those you work with, and picture yourself in a situation unrelated to work (sickness, divorce, financial).

Social skills

No matter what, communication is key to everything! If a worker is dealing with issues outside of work, be the bigger person and find out what is wrong. You don’t need to pry and learn every detail. If you can socially learn how to tackle a technical problem in the work environment, then you are more than capable of helping one of your peers better their work life.

Caring for your own emotional health in a job is crucial but being aware of it for the sake your peers makes you a well-rounded leader. Learning about emotional intelligence has helped me realize that it’s important to not only care about myself or the values of the company I will work for, but also the people with whom I surround myself. I’ve always been pretty good at reading people and never really related it towards a work setting. I’ve always been taught the importance of getting the position I want, gaining communication skills, and work experience. Developing emotional intelligence should be an important factor as well. It shows that leaders care about the well-beings of other workers, which demonstrates the true values of a company.

Many of us know Greek organizations as what we see in the movies, but in reality there’s so much more than what Animal House represents! There are different categories of fraternities or sororities, which other Pearson Student bloggers have written about here and here. Panhellenic is the most common known type of Greek organization. However there are also multicultural, religious, and national service organizations. I choose to be in a national service sorority. This type of organization is different compared to a social sorority in that its focus is on one particular thing: volunteering. My journey in joining a national service sorority has been life changing and I have learned so much along the way.

When starting college, it was never my intention to participate in Greek life or feel the social pressure of fitting into that dynamic. During spring 2017, I knew I wanted to join an active organization. I felt out of place on my campus and needed to build confidence by putting myself out there. Deep down I knew that joining a sorority would force me to be more social – something that I desired to gain in my college experience. A friend told me she was in a sorority called Omega Phi Alpha, a national service sorority that focuses on volunteering. At that point I had no idea a service sorority even existed. It supported everything I was looking for in an organization. Here are a few main factors that stood out to me when I joined Omega Phi Alpha.

Friendship

When I first started school at Texas State, I had a hard time keeping a close bond with new friends. This sorority attracted my interests when it came to service, but it also focused on friendship and sisterhood as well. It allows you to share one big common interest and create long term friendships you never thought you would have.

Leadership

In Omega Phi Alpha there are more than ten leadership positions available. Big or small sororities provide you with the opportunity to lead. You not only gain recognition in the service projects you participate in, but the leadership roles you take as well.

Service

Each semester Omega Phi Alpha carries out projects in six areas of service: the community at large, the university community, the members of the sorority, nations of the world, the president’s project (a different cause every year), and the mental health project. These events help the members serve the community in many ways. This semester our sorority has planned to do crafting with seniors, quad days on campus, handing out care packages to the homeless, field day at the boys and girls club, and numerous local park cleanups.

I’ve gained very memorable experiences by being apart of Omega Phi Alpha. I grew emotionally and mentally as I gained leadership experience, lifelong friendships, and the opportunity to follow my passion of serving the community. I highly encourage you to consider a service sorority if you are interested in Greek life, but might be intimidated by the other sorority options. I am very thankful to have joined such an honorable organization.

Pearson Students: April is volunteer month. Tell us about your volunteer experiences.  Please share with the community by commenting below!