5 Hard Truths About College I Wish I Knew as a Freshman
Reflecting back on my own college experience, here are five things I wish I had known as a freshman.
1. The friends you make freshman year might not be your friends senior year.
You may get lucky with a few people who stick around, but don’t get discouraged when people change and grow over the course of four years and drift away from you. Meeting new people and learning how to dedicate time to healthy relationships is important. I found that I preferred being alone to having bad company, so while my circle is small, I know I can rely on all of my friends for mutual support.
2. You can do more than you think you can.
It may seem hard at times to dedicate more and more time to school, jobs, clubs, and personal development, but now is the time to fill your days. Every semester I made sure to take that extra class, join that club or seek out a leadership position, and prioritize movement at the gym and tennis practice during the day because that was important to me. You have the freedom now to design a life that fulfills you while also shaping you into the person you want to be.
3. It’s not supposed to be easy, but it is supposed to be fun.
If while trying something new you discover that it doesn’t bring you joy or other benefits, it is ok to stop. Now is the time to find what makes you want to get out of bed every day, so it’s good to be busy if you feel fulfilled. However, there is no shame in asking people you trust for help if things start to feel overwhelming. I was fortunate to have many great friends and mentors help me through some of the more difficult semesters, and you will too when you get involved and build strong relationships.
4. No one is judging you.
Especially as a freshman, I was so concerned with what everyone else thought about me. Now, as a senior, I realize that no one I thought was judging me would remember me today. I have never remembered someone for the way they dress or walk, but I do remember the people who treated me with respect and made me laugh. Think about how you want someone to remember you and use that as a guide for how to carry yourself every day.
5. It’s not what you know, it’s who you know (and how you know them).
Whether it’s an internship you want or an officer position in the club, you are only as good as your relationships with the people making the decision. Since you never know who might be in that position to dictate your future one day, you must treat everyone with kindness and respect. I have submitted more applications than I could ever remember, but the successful ones were supported by the connections I had made during my time at UNH. This truth will hold for the rest of your professional life, so it is essential to practice in college.
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