Timing it out
The second realization was that I needed to be more organized about my time. I was really bad about jumping from one task to another and always rushing to get to places because time got away from me. I have started to organize my time by making a list in my notes app on my phone scheduling out my day and what I need to get done. I try to put all the tasks in order of how I need to complete them.
If a task has a time limit on it, like work from 2-4 pm, I put the times so I know everything above that needs to be completed by that time. This has helped me by giving me a visual representation of my day and has stopped me from feeling so overwhelmed. By being able to actually see what I have to get done instead of keeping a list in my head I am able to have better time management. I also feel a certain type of satisfaction from marking off a completed task. Everyone needs to take value in their time and find the best way to space your day out because your time is valuable and doesn’t deserve to be wasted.
It’s ok to say ‘no’
The third and hardest realization to take in for me was realizing that I needed to learn how to say “NO.” Blame it on my southern roots and personality, but I am a people pleaser that takes pride in being able to lend a helping hand. However, I have come to realize that I cannot do everything and help everyone. A big goal of mine for this year was to start prioritizing myself more. Which sounds weird and conceited, but it’s not.
Everyone should always make sure that they have helped and cared for themselves before giving that care to help someone else. If you have not completed studying or whatever your main goal was for that day, it is okay to say “no I am sorry. I wish I could help, but I really need to get this done.” People will understand and you’re not a bad person for doing this. The realization of this was a big pill for me to swallow and is still something I have to remind myself of everyday. There is only so much you and your energy that can go around, so make sure the person that is getting most of that is yourself.
The moral of this story is that you are important and deserve to be looked after, so make sure that you are doing that for yourself. Be selfish, to an extent. Take time to check on yourself, realize that your time has value, and determine where that value should go.